Generational Patterns & High Achievement
Seeing trauma & hidden stress patterns run deep
I’ve been building health and wellness businesses for over twenty years – managing teams, working with clients, growing things from the ground up. I’m a perfectionist, a grafter, someone who runs on momentum, and for a long time that looked like enough. From the outside, everything was working.
But I also grew up in a home where emotions didn’t get airtime. One parent emotionally avoidant, the other with severe OCD, the environment confusing, controlling and aggressive in ways that were hard to make sense of as a child. I’d had multiple surgeries before I was eight – a small body learning very early that it wasn’t safe, with no way to process that fear. I did what most people do with that kind of start – I outran it. Off the rails as a teenager, eventually back on track, determined to prove myself and building a career, performing, attaining, doing lots at once. The pattern is a familiar one if you work with high achievers. The drive is real, but so is what’s underneath it.
Post-Natal Depression To Trauma-Informed
How lived experience shaped a trauma-informed practice
Then I had children, and the body stopped cooperating. Postnatal depression, panic attacks, anxiety that no amount of willpower or logic could touch. For the first time I could feel that what I was carrying wasn’t all mine. The avoidance, the rigidity, the way stress lived in my body – inherited patterns playing out in real time. That was the point where everything changed direction. I started training in trauma release for the nervous system, Brainspotting for emotional processing, and nutrigenomics for the genetic picture nobody was joining up. I was still running a business at the same time, because that’s who I am, I do a lot while I’m moving, although at times I was knocked down to sit with what had been buried.
Some of it was also a homecoming. I’m multiracial – Borneo Dayak, Hakka Chinese, English, Scottish, even Viking blood – and somatic healing runs through several of those lineages. Working with the body to release what words can’t reach isn’t a new idea; it’s a practice carried across generations and cultures long before Western psychotherapy decided it had the monopoly. Holding multiple heritages means holding multiple histories, and some of them pull in different directions. That’s something I understand from the inside, and it shapes how I sit with clients navigating their own layered inheritance – particularly those carrying diaspora, cultural complexity, or patterns that don’t fit neatly into one story. Coming to this work didn’t all feel new, parts of it felt like remembering something I’d always known.
Grief, Menopause & The Nervous System
Loss & menopause deepen nervous system work
Then I lost both my parents, and grief cracked open everything I thought I’d already dealt with. Losing the people whose patterns you’ve spent years unpicking – alongside shame, guilt and your own mortality. It took me deeper into the generational wounds than anything else could have, and it gave me a respect for the process that I carry into every session.
Now I’m in menopause, and another layer has arrived. More history, more of the inherited material working its way through, and I’m still in it. I don’t think you stop walking alongside your shadows, you just learn to make friends with them. But I know the tools, I trust the method, and that changes how you meet whatever comes next.
The Happy Reset® Inherited Patterns Project, is a method built from all of that. Not from a textbook, from a life that demanded I find what works, and the professional training to bring it to other people navigating their own version.
Burnout, Anxiety & Hidden Patterns
Why going beyond talk therapy works
You might be running a business and sleeping three hours a night. You might be the person everyone leans on and nobody thinks to check in with. You might be holding a senior role together while privately falling apart, or navigating a divorce, a bereavement, a health scare that nobody at work knows about.
Maybe your gut has been a mess for years and no one can tell you why. Maybe the anxiety arrived with menopause and hasn’t left. Maybe you’re performing brilliantly and still feel like something fundamental is off – and you’re exhausted from pretending it isn’t.
The people who find me tend to have one thing in common. They’ve tried the logical route. The talking. The thinking their way through it. The pushing harder. And somewhere along the way they’ve started to realise that what they’re dealing with didn’t start recently, and it isn’t going to respond to willpower alone.
That’s where this work begins. Not with a diagnosis or a label, but with the recognition that your body, your brain and your history are all part of the same picture – and until someone works with all three, the pattern keeps repeating.
Training, Qualifications & How I Work
Trauma-informed across clinic, corporate & events
I’m a certified TRE® Provider and member of TRE International. I’m a Brainspotting Practitioner trained through Phases 1-4 including Masterclass and Group Brainspotting, and as of 2026, currently working towards international certification. I’m a Specialist in Nutrigenomics, a Healing Diets Coach, and a member of the National Institute of Medical Herbalists. I’m also a Level 4 Functional Fitness Coach and UK Athletics Coach. Over twenty years of working in community-based settings and corporate wellness, all of it shaped by my own lived experience.
I speak and deliver workshops at conferences and events across the UK. Everything I do – whether it’s a keynote for three hundred people or a one-to-one session in my practice room – comes from the same place: combining trauma-informed movement, genetics and body-led practices to make complex physiology and concepts usable in real life.
I’m based in Beaconsfield and London, and I work online internationally and in person.
